What is a TT you ask? In our house, TT is the mute button, the soother, the one, the only, pacifier. See, when I was pregnant I was pretty sure I wasn't going to use them. I'd heard from so many people the disadvantages to pacifiers (speech delay, teeth problems, trouble weaning from them, etc) and because I knew it all (ha) before I had kids I hadn't really purchased many.
But then this guy showed up. And he cried. And cried. And boy did he cry. He cried so much in the hospital that the nurses gave him a pacifier, not me. At first I was upset that they just gave him one without consulting me but I had a little guy that sure liked to suck and pacifiers soothed him. And I'll be honest, to get a break from the crying, I gladly let him have it. *SANITY!*
By the time he was 1, he was pretty addicted to the thing. Again at this age, Brady cried a lot, was super strong willed, still loved to suck, and spoke a ton so I didn't think twice about letting him keep it. A little before this age he started using "TT" (tee-tee) to refer to his pacifier. We have no clue where he came up with it, but those darn things have been TT's ever since!
By 2, same story, different age. This was in the hospital room when we had Layla. I saw the pictures and thought enough is enough. We limited him to only have his TT at naptime and bedtime. It was a big struggle at first but he adjusted.
Want to know a huge major secret? Brady's 3.5 now and before last Tuesday, well, he still slept with his dang pacifier. I'm mortified about this. If you have nothing nice to say about it, please don't bother saying it. Anything you could say I've already said in my head. Brady is a very spirited child and before the age of 3 I had many days where it was a major battle just to get through the day with him. I'll be honest in saying this was just one battle I didn't want to pick. Brady's always been a great sleeper (naptime and bedtime) and with Layla taking forever to sleep through the night, I just didn't want to screw things up. And it seemed like once she was sleeping through the night there was either a trip, a deployment, or some other excuse why we didn't fully get rid of his pacifier.
Not to say we didn't try though. We tried tricking him that they were yucky (didn't work), tried cutting the ends off (didn't work), tried telling him that none of his friends have them, that only babies do (didn't work). I think sadly a part of me didn't want him to lose the last little part of his baby-ness either. There was only 1 thing we could think of that could possibly work: the TT Fairy. Not sure what the TT fairy is? Well it's basically the thought that a child leaves his pacifiers with a note for the pacifier fairy(who can give their pacifiers to new babies that need them) and leaves a gift in exchange. We set a date: January 6. And talked the heck out of this TT fairy business. I knew Brady would eat this up.
So last Tuesday, Brady sucked his TT for the last time. He was so confused. You mean I can suck it without being in bed?
He told me what I needed to say to the TT fairy in the note and we put his pacifiers in a baggie.
Brought the note with his TTs down the stairs
And gave me his biggest thumbs up. Or at least his version of thumbs up.
I wish I could say it was easy peasy, but some days have been downright rough. Honestly it's gone better than expected though. I had to talk him off the ledge initially because he was terrified the fairy was going to sneak into his room (backfire much?) and he was pretty sad the first couple of days (which absolutely broke my heart) but he is now officially a big boy and TT free! He's pretty much not napping anymore though and not getting a ton of sleep at night but hopefully soon he'll be back to normal (hopefully, oh please!) and be my good sleeper again.
In retrospect we should have done this a long time ago. But honestly we've had 6 months of pretty great sleep and that was worth not picking the battle for us. Oh parenthood, it's a journey!
Now there's just this little stinker left...